What kind of energy can support a person through the trough and confusion of life?

here is my story: in the spring of 2009, when I was a freshman at Princeton University, I suffered a series of setbacks in participating in the club election because of the transition from the top of high school to college. The writing professor completely cleared the confidence in writing that I had accumulated for many years in newspaper columns, as well as my mistakes in choosing courses, which made me suffer from "remorse" and mild depression. To the outside world, Princeton is one of the top universities in the world, but when I was in the ivory tower, I was completely dark for a while. For two months, as soon as I lay down, my brain kept turning. The original Guts special me, can not get up every morning, and even have the idea of dropping out of school. My mother told me that I might be slightly depressed and flew to the United States in a hurry to see me. Fortunately, I had a big sister around me at that time, who came to enlighten me every week, took me to activities, and sent me some emotional songs every week. Hex: two weeks before the summer vacation, I applied to study Spanish in Mexico, but the project was cancelled a week before the final exam because of swine flu. The summer vacation in the United States has three months. What should I do? Under the great pressure of preparing for the final exam, when I was in sub-health, I applied for several programs, one of which was to study environmental engineering and volunteer in Ghana. When I applied for a project that was full in February at the end of May, I was told that the possibility of admission was 1/10000. I was told to wait to see if anyone dropped out temporarily. Under such high pressure, I survived the final exam of my freshman year, locked myself in the library and prepared exams and papers every day.

finally, the day before the end of the final exam, the Ghana project took a turn for the better, and a classmate's parents temporarily decided not to let her go to Africa. I got the chance to go to Ghana and developed my ability to work under pressure. In 2009, during the summer vacation of my freshman year, I spent two months of my life "rebirth" in Ghana, West Africa. It was the first African country that Obama visited since becoming president of the United States, and it was also the first democratic country in Africa. Ghanaians like Chinese people very much and often happily tell me that "these products come from China". My students often ask me, "Sister, do you know Jacky Chan?" Hearing the enthusiasm of African children for kung fu, my heart is actually duang! For a while. In Ghana, I also saw many legendary construction workers from China who ate Chinese food served by black boys. Walking on the streets of the capital Accra, my first impression of Ghana is that Ghana is a relatively backward country. The capital is similar to China's rural bazaars, somewhat dirty, and the streets are full of young people with food on their heads. There are banana slices, tiger beans, bagged water (note that there is no bottled water), chocolates, candies and so on in the basket overhead. When the car on the road stops and waits for the red light, it will be stuffed to the passengers in the car. They stunned me with their ability to balance things. About an hour's drive from the capital Accra is the Ghanaian countryside where our summer project is located in Kokrobitey, close to the Gulf of Guinea. Here, I experienced the "four noes" treatment for the first time-no Scald, no flat road, no wifi, no TV watching; but it didn't seem to matter, Ghanaian natives, dancing and enjoying life. My students will hold my hand and say, my sister will dance with us. That summer vacation, the bright sunshine on the faces of my African friends, and their optimistic and positive attitude continued to infect me.

 The following is an excerpt from an article I published in "Daily Princetonian": Letters to the Editor: Feb. 3, 2010 "Growing up, I took many things for granted: smooth roads, bright classrooms and hot showers." For my students, electricity and clean water are something to wish for. (growing up, many things I take for granted, such as smooth roads, brightly lit classrooms, Scald baths. However, for my students, water and electricity is a luxury. In the face of my African friends, I couldn't help asking myself, "Why do I worry so much all day long?" Be open-minded and cherish what we have in front of us, instead of worrying about what we can't control or what we have lost. In fact, what I lost as a freshman was self-confidence, and the most vulnerable time was when the place I was once proud of was completely denied. After returning to Beijing from Africa in the summer of 2009, I was miraculously drawn into a small entrepreneurial team to do TEDxPedition across many provinces and cities in China by a stranger's Skype phone. That summer vacation, we completed a national green trip from Beijing to Xi'an, Changsha, Chongqing, Hong Kong and Shanghai, visited the Yellow River afforestation project, learned about Changsha Organic Farm, plus the preparation and implementation of five TEDx meetings. This challenge of "exceeding expectations" made me regain my self-confidence and realized that I could be on my own and make the "impossible" possible. After finding my specialty, I returned to Princeton as a sophomore and became a conference organizer-organizing a lot of large international conferences; at the same time, I was no longer so "strict" about my requirements and was no longer the perfectionist I used to be. When I see a half-drunk bottle of water, I can correct my mindset and tell myself that "there is still half of this bottle of water" instead of "there is only half a bottle of water left in the bottle". In addition, I always remember that my American high school friend murong saw me work hard every day as a freshman and lost 15 jin in five months. She told me that I should not only bury myself in the backbone, but also know how to work as a team and study smarter-- "study smart, not study hard.". For example, some courses require a lot of reading, you can work in groups, each read a few chapters, write abstracts, and then integrate Synchronize to the whole group. This sentence of Murong is very important to me.I have been with me all the time in my academic life. When I was a freshman, sometimes I worked on the same problem set for several or even more than ten hours, and I might get into the "corner", but if I had a study group, to communicate and discuss with my classmates, I would study more effectively. The reason why I share my story with you is to let more friends who are still at the bottom of their lives and confused know that there are people around them who have adjusted their mindset and got out of trouble all the way from the same predicament. I know very well in my heart that not everyone has a chance to go to Africa to be reborn. Based on my experience, here are my summaries:

1. When conditions permit, try to change your environment, travel or teach, and find yourself again in the process. During my freshman summer vacation, I spent two months in Africa and Ghana, so that I was reborn and could treat everything with a positive attitude.

2. When we are confused and at a low ebb, our self-confidence is at its lowest. Try to find an experience or something that will help you regain your self-confidence and lower your demands on yourself. People's efficiency and output when they are confident are completely different from those when they are not confident. When people are at a low ebb, it is easy to fall into a vicious circle.

3. Don't hold the confusion in your heart and communicate with others more; or find resonant netizens through some self-saving self-help books, online support group, and some healing mobile phone App, and communicate more and help each other. When we talk to people who have had similar experiences and listen to them share how to get out of the trough; when we know that there are people around us who have experienced the same depression and confusion, and come out, we can see hope.

4. I like to collect all kinds of inspirational quotes, that enlighten me. This quotes makes me face every day more bravely.

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